Meet Erin, our gorgeous Mummy of the Week who sheds some light and love on her motherhood journey...
Tell us about your family…
My partner, Luke, and I spent years travelling the world as a twosome. Last May our family (and our hearts) grew with the arrival of our little man, Rory. Our family adventures are a little slower now but I hope they never stop. We live by the beach but right now we're in France where it’s snowing!
What is your fondest memory of being pregnant?
Feeling and watching the dance parties in my belly. I loved feeling every kick, punch and wiggle. It was something special, like a secret that only we shared and even now I miss it. No matter where I was, I was always that pregnant lady rubbing her belly!
What do you love most about being a Mum?
I love that I get to watch Rory learn about the world and witness all of his 'firsts'. Rory has big, curious eyes that take in everything... things we barely even notice are a huge discovery for him. Like the first time he felt grass, his pudgy fingers slowly and cautiously reached out before rolling in his fingers and shoving it in his mouth. Every day he seems amazed by life and I love that I get to see that.
What has been one of your favourite memories about motherhood so far?
The very first time when I got him out of his bassinet and rather than crying he smiled up at me. That big, gummy grin and the recognition that I was his Mummy made all of the sleepless nights worth it.
What's one of the things that you least expected about motherhood?
I never realised how all consuming motherhood would be. I barely get a moment to myself and there's always two little eyes watching me while I pee. Even when he's sleeping I'm thinking about him,wondering if he's awake. I had to stop showering when it's just the two of us home because I would always hear phantom cries and the experience became far too rushed and stressful!
What is the biggest lesson that motherhood has taught you so far?
That there is more to life than getting things done. On the days when I have a long list of tasks to do, Rory will be clingy and will refuse to sleep for longer than 20 minutes (unless he's in my arms). Being a mum has taught me that it's o.k to have days or weeks where nothing much gets done. Being present with my baby means so much more to me than having a clean house does.
What values do you think are the most important to instil in your children?
Empathy. I want him to grow up knowing that everyone is equal and deserving of the same rights, regardless of gender, sexuality, race or any other differences.
Other than being a Mum, what are you most passionate about?
I don't think I could live without writing. It's how I understand my thoughts and express my creativity. I've found solace in writing as long as I can remember and I think I'm a better mum when I continue to express myself through the written word. I love having my own little space on the internet to share my thoughts and you can find me at www.erinwilliams.com.au
What baby product can you not live without and why?
I never thought I would say this, but his dummy. I was adamant that I would never use a dummy (pre-baby, of course) but am so glad I changed my mind. It helps him stay happy in the car, is great for naps and was a godsend for keeping him quiet on our recent flights.
When hiring a nanny, what qualities would you look for in the applicant?
I would look for someone with similar views to myself. Someone who would be gentle, kind and loving towards my little one. Someone who I could trust looking after my baby. When you vibe with someone you always know right away.
Sometimes life can get a little crazy, what do you do to stay sane?
Self-care and good support. If I don't take time for myself, even if just a few minutes a day, and if I don't talk to my partner, the stress can easily become too much. And good coffee always helps too, especially when I’m running on less sleep than I would like.
Is there any advice you can give to mums-to-be?
Do whatever works for you. When it comes to raising children there are so many different opinions, especially when it comes to the big two - feeding and sleeping. Do your own research, try the things that resonate with you and keep doing whatever works best for you. Don’t make comparisons with other mums because at the end of the day no one knows your baby like you do.